10 Principles of Conscious Dating

 1. Know Who You Are and What You Want and Need

What we know about ourselves is only the tip of the iceberg, and what lies below the surface is what we aren’t aware of – and that is the information we need to discover in order to be fulfilled and happy.

2.  Learn How to Get What You Want
Assess and acquire the information, tools, and skills you will need to become more conscious.  Develop creative strategies and action plans.
When you fail to plan, you plan to fail.

3.  Be the “Chooser”
Take initiative and responsibility for your outcomes.  Don’t react to what, or who chooses you.  Seek to create what you want in your life by taking control and becoming empowered.

4.  Balance Your Heart With Your Head
Make your relationship choices consciously.  It’s still exciting and is a whole lot safer!

5.  Be Ready and Available for Commitment
Live your life and bring your dating strategy into alignment with how READY you really are for a committed relationship.

6.   Use the Law of Attraction
Be the partner that you are seeking.  Live your life authentically and consciously, knowing the more you express who you really are, the easier it will be to attract a partner who will love you BECAUSE of who you are, not in spite of it.

7.  Gain Relationship Knowledge and Skills
Prepare for the love of your life by learning about relationships, improving your relationship skills, and deepening your relationships with your family, friends, and colleagues.  Date for fun and practice.  Take more emotional risks.  Read about relationships.  Get relationship coaching.  Take relationship classes and workshops.

8.  Create a Support Community
Isolated singles become lonely in their relationships when they focus on a partner to meet all of their social and emotional needs.  Build a social network that will meet your needs.

9.  Practice Assertiveness
To get what you really want, you need to say “No” to what you don’t want.

10. Be a Successful Single
Don’t put your life on hold waiting for a relationship to happen.  Live your life vision and purpose while you are single.  The best way to find and attract you life partner is to be a happy, successful single person living the life that you really want.


Conscious Dating: Self Discovery and Readiness Workbook
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